How to Adult: The New Year

It’s the time of the year that a lot of people make resolutions. Resolutions work sometimes. They can be easily broken, though.

When you make a resolution to go to the gym 4 times a week, but by the 3rd week of January you go once and the 4th week zero times, you’re liable to label yourself a failure and just give up completely. There’s a cliche about packed gyms at the start of the year for a reason.

Millions of people will set resolutions for themselves like this, and then abandon them after a month or two. Time flies by–having returned to the status quo–and before you know it it’s January again and you’re making the same sorts of promises to yourself.

The problem with most resolutions is they’re too one-dimension and too impatient. All or nothing. Now! But that’s not human nature, and that’s not how life works. We need to think of ourselves in a more holistic way, over longer stretches of time. You can’t lose 20 pounds or jump several IQ points overnight.

Take a look at the entire year ahead, and ask yourself where you’d like to be Jan 1, 2017.

What kind of person do you want to be?

What do you want your health to be like on that day?

What new experiences would you like to have had between now and then?

What things might take the whole year to achieve that you should start now?

In what ways are you living as a shadow of yourself that you keep circling back to like some kind of an addiction to bad habits?

Take the coming year’s worth of time to move from where you are now to where you’d like to be then. There are so many things that can be achieved.

Let the next 366 days (it’s a Leap Year, so you’ve got an extra day, even) be a journey of growth and depth and overcoming some of the ways you keep struggling to be a better version of yourself.

Maybe you don’t get all the way there in one year’s time. Mastering eating well, or being more organized and on time, or keeping in touch better with family and friends, or pursuing a dream job can take multiple years. But you have to start somewhere, and in a year you will have gotten somewhere steadily and rewardingly. We are all on a constant path of becoming, and we can continue to grow our whole life if we live with self-reflection and intention.

Don’t let next-year you be the same as this-year you.

 

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